Health vs Beauty vs Reality

I came across this article (image below) on The National that one of my friends shared on his facebook profile. In short and as I understood it, Labiba wasn’t happy she hasn’t been picked for the free trial at Symmetry Gym, she thought THEY thought she can’t afford it, not sure where they would get this idea from. Meanwhile, Symmetry Gym’s co-owner, Amir,  doesn’t motivate people lightly. He throws it in their face and provokes them to get up and do something about them not being fit. (he said fat.)

The National

First, so what if an application was rejected? I’m sure more than 1,500 applications were rejected too. Actually instead of using the word rejected let’s say “was not picked.” If I wasn’t picked with other hundreds of people, for whatever reason the gym has, it’s not the end of the world. I shouldn’t go and complain about it. Especially if I’m famous on social media. I did that 10 years ago to a company but then I realized I don’t own them. It’s up to them and their policy.

Second, even though there’s nothing that says she was not picked because of her weight or thinking she can’t afford, using his words in this format makes it look like this is the real reason. Which until now I don’t see it confirmed anywhere. Plus, what if it’s the gym’s policy? Just throwing a what if here. Maybe they care about daily fitness rather than losing weight? So what IF I wasn’t picked because I’m fat? If that was the reason. It’s up to them.

Third, he’s totally guilty for saying:

Sadly, we live in a culture where big is not beautiful,

A harsh dose of reality is the only thing that ever works, when it comes to getting people like yourself to finally see how it feels to be attractive.”

Being fit and healthy is the ultimate goal I believe, not being beautiful and attractive. For instance, I don’t think Amir is attractive or beautiful (judging from his online photos.) However, I’m sure he’s fit, otherwise it would be another bad promotion for the gym in addition to the statement above on being beautiful is the goal, even though it holds a tiny truth in it: “Sadly.”
Again, I can be beautiful and attractive AND overweight but I can’t be healthy and over/underweight.

Yes, being overweight is wrong. I know this NOT because I have never been fat in my life which is true. I know this because I don’t remember a time when I was fit for more than a month. I eat a lot and I don’t exercise much (It’s a shame and I take the blame) plus my health issues which is mostly due to the fact I just mentioned. However, I do look fit! Yes people call me “too thin” a lot because I’m underweight and I don’t like it, but can’t blame anyone. It’s my fault not taking care of my health and my fitness.I spend more money on adidas gears than on the time at the gym. And this, is REALITY! Realizing this, unfortunately, doesn’t help my health issues until I truly get up and fix my eating habits and my lack of exercise.

DISCLAIMER: I don’t know Labiba and I don’t the Symmetry Gym owners. I only heard about the gym through that article.

The Influence You Leave Behind

I woke up today to a warm and positive Linkedin message from someone I never met and never had the pleasure to know. However, this person “knows” me and here’s how:

January 1, 2015 9:47 AM
Hello Jansait,

I’m Doaa working with the NOC team at Aspire Services, I joined the team a short time after you have left it. I heard nice things about you and I wish I could’ve worked and met you 🙂

Well, just wanted to say ‘Hi’ and wishing you a happy and good new year 🙂

Regards,

Doaa Al-Daqqa

After reading this message and thanking her, it hit me how important it is to leave a positive footprint behind, thinking of all the people I met and those who met me.

Who you are matters.

It matters because it affects people and it affects the impact those people leave behind as well. Being dedicated, honest and kind at your workplace and in life in general allows positivity to grow in this world and this matters a lot.

Kindness costs nothing but rewards greatly where hatred costs you a lot of negativity that affect your health and everyone around you but rewards nothing.

Thank you, Doaa, for sending some love this morning 🙂 Receiving this message after 4+ years of leaving my position means a lot to me and encourages me to be better at what I do and to those around me.

My 2015 in 10 Lines

In simple words, I want my new year to be like this:

1- More relaxed, worry free as much as I can

2- More adventurous, travel more and try new things.

3- Healthier, I can’t even count how many times I said I’ll go to the gym but this time I think I’ll do it differently, like walking, running and cycling

4- Fast at least once a month, if only people know how great it is for the body and soul.

5- I’ll stay kind but will also learn to say no

6- Pray at least 1825 times / 5 times a day

7- Blog more often; sharing things that people can learn from

8- Random acts of kindness, especially to those who cannot repay me but would pay it forward to someone else

9- Be more considerate of the environment, think twice before using electricity, water, gas, etc.

10- Read and learn new things.

I will not call these my new year’s resolutions, I’ll just call them my every day to-do list and hopefully will be able to share results with you and how it went. I know I might not be able to achieve 100% of them but will at least try my best!

p.s. I didn’t wait for January 1st to start. Already started 🙂

How does your 2015 look like?

7 lessons I learned from my 5 year old cousin

AdamAdam is a 5 year old who goes to kindergarten everyday and he absolutely loves it! A loving boy who wakes up early, even during holidays, and goes to bed later than his bedtime, extremely good at school and online games, and you can’t but fall in love with his magical smile.

I learn a lot from him every time we sit and talk or play together, I couldn’t imagine a kid his age can be that wise and smart. Here are 7 lessons I learned from him:

– I once asked Adam to describe himself in three words, he said: funny, happy and crazy. I laughed because he truly is those three! I believe we all should BE FUNNY, HAPPY and CRAZY. How wonderful life would be! Because what is life but having fun and be funny and outgoing.. resulting in being happy but should always be crazy enough to maintain first two.

– Whenever I ask Adam if he loves me, he says: I love you very very much and I LOVE EVERYBODY

Have no discrimination even if you have a preference, love everyone and be good to everyone.  This boy knows nothing about hate, he doesn’t even hate eating veggies. Even if you make him mad for some reason, he forgets it in a split second and loves you again and more! It’s so easy to hate but so rewarding to be able to love regardless or who, what or why.

– When Adam is at school he’s a completely different personality. He becomes so dedicated and into learning but the moment he gets out of his class, he’s the fun and playful boy again! BE DEDICATED TO WHAT YOU DO. When you’re at work, give it your all, when it’s play time, play until you drop!

NEVER STOP LEARNING. Adam plays different games like minecraft and tomb raider and he’s great at all. However, he’s always on YouTube watching how other people play these games and even games he doesn’t play in order to learn from them and inspire his techniques. No one is a complete expert in anything, we keep learning even from those who don’t do what we do or how we do it.

– He’s not only good online and at school, he’s also good at taking a break and enjoy a nice weather. I see him often going to the backyard to play under the sun and away from his laptop and tablet (Yes, his laptop and his tablet,) xbox or Play Station. We don’t appreciate what we have unless we TAKE A BREAK every now and then.

– What do carrots give us? and how does milk help our body? These are the kind of questions Adam asks about food. He says “I want to BE HEALTHY” and between meals while he plays on his laptop he likes to eat apples and baby carrots.

Smile! Adam smiles as soon as you look at him, as soon as you point the camera’s lens at him to take a photo, and whenever he can he just smiles! How many hearts can you win by smiling and smiling back. I know how many hearts you can’t win; zero. A smile from the heart is magical. Every single time.

I can keep talking about things I learn from Adam for a hundred years but these are enough to make anyone funny, happy and crazy for the rest of their life. 🙂

The Unconscious Strategy – The Wolf of Wall Street

This is not a decade that you can just sit on your hands and let things be business as usual. You need to take action.

I find Jordan Belfort very inspiring, not because he’s a great motivational speaker but because he’s the average human being. His desires, mistakes, priorities, ambitions and his dreams. We’re all like him but most of us haven’t acted accordingly.

In his book, Jordan Belfort, talked about the secret to success and the secret to failure. He also talked about his mistakes; his #1 mistake was his destructive belief, destructive beliefs are inserted in us. He followed Gordon Gekko’s “Greed is good” and this is not true, he says, ambitious is good. The second greed walks in ethics go out. You need to have standards and keep them.

The existence of money might not buy you happiness but absence of money can buy you a miserable life. Getting money is very easy, what’s hard is fulfillment. This money should be used to make you closer to your family and loved ones and should help you and people around you.

There are four must-haves that can be applied to anything, anywhere by anyone in order to be successful.  The difference between being amazing and extraordinary is millimeter so do these 4 things at the highest possible level: 

1- Goals get abandoned but vision remains. Most people have goals in life, this is the first mistake. You need a vision, not a goal! See things as they are, not worse than they are so you don’t hold yourself down. Then see things better than they are and make them this way.

Gandhi survived hunger strike because he had a vision of uniting the country, he didn’t have a goal.

2- Fear is the worst emotion of all. If there’s one distinguish between wealthy people and poor is that wealthy people act in the face of fear while poor people run away. State Management is the art of managing your state and emotions. You need to control how you feel and your state in all kinds of situations.

3- Beliefs. They act like the governor in a car, limits its speed. The reality is subjective, you can have the beliefs that empower you and shed beliefs that limit you. Know what your limiting and discouraging beliefs are and root them out then replace them with empowering beliefs. No matter what happened to you in your past, you’re not your past, you’re the resources and capabilities and what you learnt from your failure.

4- You need a strategy. You can have all the above three must-haves but if you have a bad strategy you will fail.

If you have these four and you’re even mildly good at them you’re bound to succeed. Being successful can happen quickly but what takes time is to get these four lined-up to get to the point when you get successful quick.

What’s more interesting is that Jordan Belfort (and some of us) were already doing these things unconsciously. What makes you ethically successful and rich is doing these consciously and in a structured way. This is what he’s offering the world today.

Top 5 Inventions in History

5- Toilet and plumbing: without explaning why or who, just imagine your life without it.

4- Washing Machine. By William Blackstone as a birthday present for his wife. So cute!

3- Water heater. By Benjamin Waddy Maughan. May his soul RIP.

2- Photography. By not sure who, but my most favorite photographers, below, were invented by God and their parents. (Click on each photo to visit their gallery)

1- Food, By God. and cooking as an art of food by people.

Random Thoughts

Life is such a funny thing. World is as small as a city that is as big as Dubai. which I just visited for the first time.

When we meet people in our lives, we smile, laugh, cry or wonder. smile and go. laugh and stay. cry and remember. wonder and dream. Some people make us smile, laugh, cry and wonder, all together. It was never an easy thing to get over people. but once we do; it’s such a relief, the trick is to know that it’s not about stop loving them, or stop thinking of them. It’s about Life. the beauty is that it goes on. Nothing is constant except change. Only if we allow it to happen. and nothing is more beautiful than change.

I learned a lot but sometimes I ask myself, what for? Where is this path of life taking me? Do I have a choice? If so, what do I really want? If I know, is it good for me? Do I want the good? On the way getting there, did I hurt anyone? Not those who I know of, but those who I hurt but never knew I did. Will they ever forgive me? I can only hope. Will I forgive those who did hurt me? Sometimes I do, other times I learn to forgive them.

On this path I’m walking; are my loved ones proud of me? are they happy? Am I responsible of making them so? Why? Will they do the same for me? and then what? Life becomes all happy and peaceful? Is it fun this way? Or it’s not about fun? What is it about?

Why they do this and why we can’t get away.. why our paths meet and then part so easily or so hard? leaving a smile or a scar.

What is wrong and what is right? It’s for you to decide. The question is how much or will you ever compromise? It has always been give and take. A trade-off if you may. but it was never what you “think” it is.

There’s always something more, there’s always a way. If not, then it’s not what it’s meant to be. Some might agree and some might say No! but who knows for sure?